“Kamy Wicoff writes with the cool remove of an anthropologist, and with the candor and winning humor of an anthropologist who is amazed to discover she belongs to the tribe she is studying.”

—Francine Prose, author of A Changed Man

“I Do but I Don’t is sinfully funny, and astonishingly brave, from beginning to end. I finished the book with tears in my eyes.”

—Diane Middlebrook, author of Her Husband: Hughes and Plath, a Marriage

“Exploring the complex feelings women today feel on that ironically personal yet public journey from Ms. to Mrs., I Do but I Don’t is a heartwarming, addictive read that every bride will enjoy.”

—Wendy Sachs, author of How She Really Does It

“KamyWicoff’s smart and sassy account of her own wedding is also a call to rethink the bridal state of mind with its many challenges and stresses. In her rollicking, good-humored, and honest coverage of the ritualized pathways from proposal to altar, she confronts the ways in which economic interests and gender conventions shape the emotional experience of being a bride.”

—Joan Jacobs Brumberg, author of The Body Project and Fasting Girls

“A brilliant social analysis of the tension between postmodern feminism and the wedding industry’s marketing machine — and an in-depth commentary on the extent to which otherwise educated women still feel pressured to buy into the latter.”

—Hope Edelman, author of Motherless Daughters and Motherless Mothers

“I just wanted to tell you how much I enjoyed reading your book. I found it thoughtful, artfully constructed and frankly revelatory. As an avowed feminist who went through the whole formal wedding routine, I thought I had deconstructed the process to death, but I found many wholly new insights in your pages. I admired your frankness and ability to dissect and understand your own behavior, and the way you told your story with enormous tact and attention to the differences between your experience and that of others. Thanks for teaching me so much.”

—Victoria Rosner, College Station, Texas

“I have seriously never sought out an author before, but I just had to tell you how fabulous I Do but I Don't is!! I’m getting married in August and was seriously on the verge of freaking out when I saw your book randomly at the bookstore and picked it up.  What a great gift for myself! I have been laughing (out loud and in public) reading this book for the last week and have a new outlook on the conflicting feelings I was having about planning this wedding. I have never heard anyone talk about it so honestly which seems ridiculous since I am 35 and almost everyone I know is married.”

—Michelle Koenig, Los Angeles, California

“What a fantastic book to read if you are thinking about marriage! Ms. Wicoff's mix of personal stories and original research about the wedding industry make the book a fascinating and entertaining read. I Do But I Don't changed the way I thought about a proposal, engagement, and a wedding. I am doing things now that fit with my values as a modern, independent woman, and not against them. My fiancé and I are equal partners in the process - both of us proposed; both of us will plan the event; either both or neither of us will walk down the aisle. Ms. Wicoff's book made me realize the importance of doing things like this that fit us and our values. Without the book I probably would have let tradition carry me along with it, instead of creating our own meaningful ways to be engaged and married.”

—Liz Maw, San Francisco, California